Life Lesson #6: Belief

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You will get your heart broken.  You will be disappointed and lost sometimes.  People will leave when all you want is for them to stay.  People will look through you when all you ask is for them to open their eyes.  However undeserved, in these moments you’ll forget yourself.  However temporary, you’ll lose your way.  When you do, remember the things you already know in your heart but you can’t seem to hear over the doubts in your mind.  Remember what I know of you.

It goes something like this… You deserve more. You deserve better. You are a woman who deserves an army of people who cannot see making it through one day without you.  Yours is a heart that could start wars.  Yours is a stature that all people not just women should aspire to hold.  You will face so much and you know how to be human…learn how to stand on your feet and overcome barriers.  Overcome your own dark by finding your light.  The people in your life now and in the future will be better for knowing you and for all that you are.  You should know all of humanity is grateful.

In love, the man who gets to call you his should elevate you, challenge you, and seek to never break your heart.  Any man who cannot see you, who cannot appreciate who you are, and protect it with ferocity has no place in your life.  Don’t build a wall around your heart and don’t pretend it doesn’t hurt when things don’t work out.  Let the tears fall, mourn a loss, and let yourself be sad because acknowledging what you feel is important, but not letting it overcome you is everything.  Rise out of it, like you do, knowing you can, and leave it behind you.  Don’t be afraid to be without him because you were complete before he arrived and you are whole in and of yourself, even if you feel damaged or broken.  Holding on to something is what we do when we’re afraid, but if he broke your heart, he has no place in your life and no permission back to do more damage.

So, walk away, walk far, and walk proud without anger and without reproach shedding the hurt as you go.  You are loved.  You are loved by people who KNOW that loving you is a privilege, not a burden.  It’s something you hear, it’s something you know, but it has to go deeper…it’s something you have to believe.  Because our ears tell us lies, and our wisdom is acquired and can be flawed.

Belief comes from someplace else, a place that is ours alone, a place that will give us the hope we think we’ve lost.  Because the good never left, we were never lacking, the bad was all part of the journey for a reason, and in that place where belief lives you know it to be true.

16 Comments Add yours

  1. Amelia says:

    love. love. love. Thank you.


  2. Casey says:



  3. Glamazon says:

    Couldn”t have said it better myself. Sometimes it is all about forgetting how you feel and remembering what you are worth and what you deserve!


  4. Stacie says:

    Wonderfully written. Amen Sista


  5. Johnny Waite says:

    Bravo. So beautifully expressed.


  6. Gdawg says:

    I just met you yesterday, how did you know that I needed to hear something like this?! Very well written. Got down on myself for being “that girl” and crying in front of him, always talking about it in search for a some rationale & reason why he would hurt me like that…bottome line…he was a coward…tell you want you want to hear instead of what was true. Times of struggle & heart aches you really get to know yourself better and I'm falling in love with the woman that I am becoming and the woman I want to be. Thank you Carrie for this post, I look forward to following your blog more closely! #WomanOfCrossfit


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  8. Amy says:

    AMAZING! Makes me realize even more what I don't take for granted – I believed and I now have that man, but more imporantly I have ME back and I will never stop believing.


  9. Carrie Adams says:

    I love it when the world works like that. 🙂 I'm glad to know you.


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  11. Max says:

    Powerful stuff – thank you.


  12. Max says:

    Powerful stuff – thank you.


  13. No Filter says:

    Beautifully said 🙂


  14. Anonymous says:

    I had printed this life lesson out and pinned it in my cube about 6 months ago. 2 months ago I made a life altering decision and still come back to this piece and read it as an affirmation to myself. THANK YOU for being you and sharing your experiences and your gift of writing!


  15. Carrie Adams says:

    I'm so glad to hear that! Thank you for sharing that with me. I'm glad you were brave enough to take a chance. Stay inspired. 🙂


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